When a member of the family is addicted, it can negatively affect the entire family. The addicted family member might do some things that other members do not agree with. Hence, this might cause resentment or bad blood between both parties.

If a child is addicted, there are chances that their parents contributed to their condition in one way or the other. Parents who are intentional about the health and well-being of their children are likely to know when their children are showing tendencies of addiction.

Here are some of the ways on how parents might enable addiction in children.

Make excuses or lie about their behavior

One of the ways that parents use to enable addiction in their children is by lying or making excuses for them. If their child does something, one of the parents might shield them from the other parent to avoid getting disciplined.

When parents continue to do this, they are encouraging their children to continue some of these habits because they cannot get punished for it.

Allow them to neglect responsibilities

Sometimes, children might need to carry out some responsibilities which might be important to their health and well-being. But some parents might prevent them from shouldering such responsibilities.

For instance, if a child is supposed to undergo physical exercise, and they give certain excuses, some parents might let it slide to avoid offending them.

Blame their addiction on something else

Another way to know that parents can be enablers when it comes to addiction in children is when they blame their condition on someone or something else.

Instead of finding a solution for them, they will keep playing the blame game. The parents might even blame one another for their child’s addiction.

Inability to follow up with boundaries

Children can get addicted when their parents refuse to follow up on setting boundaries. For instance, a child can get addicted to games when their parents set some measures in place to control their screen time, and they don’t follow up on it.

Being a parent is no child’s play, they are expected to support, to guide, to protect, to advice and to love unconditionally. It becomes rather worrisome when it’s the other way around.

As a child, you might be inclined to think it is your fault but I assure you it isn’t. Life just hits hard sometimes and parents make bad decisions or turn to drugs just to cope with life’s challenges. If you are unsure as to whether or not your parent is an addict, here are some tell-tale signs;

Behavioural signs include; not showing up for work, showing up intoxicated or showing up late and regularly missing important meetings. Sudden financial problems, and legal troubles related to substance use should be looked out for.  Not hearing from your parents for weeks at a time.

If you do still live at home, you might find that your parents are less engaged in what you are doing. They might seem wrapped up in their own world and they rarely ask you about your own life. Staying out later than normal, sleeping all day, mood swings and blatant dishonesty are also good indications.

Physical signs might include; sudden changes in weight or appetite, paying less attention to personal hygiene – teeth and hair are left unbrushed, clothing is left unchanged and showering is neglected, bloodshot eyes, unusual changes in pupil size, pale skin, slurred speech, or even body odours.

Psychological signs of substance abuse include paranoia, a sudden loss of stamina or extreme increase in energy, irrational bursts of anger, and unexplained changes in personality.

 If perhaps, your parent is showing one or two symptoms above, it is pertinent you get them support. I know it might be hard but like they say hardest decisions are often the ones we need to take.

The role assumed by the parent goes a long way in the recovery of an addict. You often find parents assuming certain roles such as being overbearing or too caring as coping mechanisms. There is a tendency for parents to feel angry, guilty, tired, ashamed, afraid or even fed-up, sparking communication barriers, this could be however detrimental. 

As a parent, supporting your children is the foremost thing to do. Your job is to be their advocate, crying shoulder, and cheerleader when they need it most even on days you do not feel motivated to.

Many parents have a preconceived idea towards addiction and believe it is a choice, yes initially but overtime it’s beyond their control. Parents therefore need to educate themselves on mental issues, be less critical and judgemental.

Maintaining constant and effective communication throughout their treatment and recovery is also very helpful. Not excluding them from family activities like barbeques, picnics, parties and so on can make them feel more welcome and less self-conscious.

Parents have to also be mindful of being an example of strength for their children. By making positive lifestyle changes in yourself, getting help, including a positive outlook, you can better help your son or daughter through the recovery journey.  Joining family support groups to protect your mental health and make you better equipped to handle your child.

Certain family issues contribute to or worsen addiction such as relationship problems, financial struggles, unresolved past issues, personality conflicts, anger and resentment. All of the above issues cause stress and tension in the home and could be triggers for those with active addictions. It is therefore up to the parent to put the home in order and make it a healthy space for their child’s recovery.

The family is an important feature in the addiction treatment process. When any member of the family is addicted, it is important for the remaining members of the family to rally around and offer support to their ailing member. Doing this would go a long way in helping the addicted family member to get back on his feet.

To begin with, it is important for the family to arm themselves with all the necessary knowledge on addiction. Knowing about addiction is necessary because it helps you know how to fight it.

Primarily, it is impossible for you to fight something that you are ignorant of. Closely related to this, is the vital need to know the root cause of the addiction.

Being aware of this would help the family in coping better with their addicted family member. When there is adequate education on the concept of addiction, it assists the family not to blame their addicted family member.

In addition to this, it is essential to connect with people who are understanding.

Provided the addicted individual has a caring and loving family, he or she would be certain that they would give assistance in linking up with other people who fully understand the whole addiction recovery process.

It is not easy to handle an addict. So, as the addicted individual becomes better, the family makes attempt to adjust.

Most of the times, the family members take responsibility for the consequences of the addiction, for the purpose of ensuring their addicted family member becomes better.

Next, in treating addiction in the family, it is important to prepare and eat healthy meals, as this is one of the basic functions of the family.

Asides the fact that a nutritious meal is essential, eating with the family helps to make the bond stronger between the individual and the rest of the family. This comes in handy especially when the individual has been away from the family for a long time.

So, all through the addiction recovery process, the addicted individual needs his or her family to pull through.

One of the major reasons why children get addicted is because of their parents. Typically, when a child sees that his or her parents abuse substances or indulge in any form of behavioral addiction, they are likely to follow suit. Parents have a pivotal role to play concerning the addiction process, particularly when their children are involved.  

Commonly, drugs and alcohol are substances that children get addicted to because of their parents. And the sad part is, starting off at this early stage would lead to a life riddled with addiction.

• 

One of the highlights of parental addiction is the absence of love and concern for their children. Addicted parents barely have time to care for their children because addiction is in play. They have placed their addictive habits on a high pedestal and this is why they would focus on that first, before anything else.

These parents would be less involved in the lifestyle of their children. So, as they grow up, they pay reduced concern to what they do. This is why the children would secretly begin to indulge in abuse that would eventually end up in addiction.

Parents need to pay more attention to what their children do. Knowing fully well, that their addictive habits is nothing to write home about, it is necessary to prevent their children from making the same mistakes they made.

For instance, if a child spends much hours on the internet surfing the web and social media, the parents should be watchful so that it does not evolve into something worse. There are some children who take the internet as their world and this is because their parents are not involved.

So, to wrap it up, it is important that parents lay a good model for their children to follow. If you do not want your children to be addicted, then you should avoid doing this that can contribute to their addiction. Parents who are addicted should also seek addiction treatment so that they can have a clean bill of health.

Parents who are addicted, could have their children toeing the same path too. In most cases, this addiction is not passed down like the conventional traditions and stories which are typical of most families, this addiction is simply learnt by the child watching what the parent indulges in every time, and is motivated to follow in the same trend as well.

In most cases, it would be a herculean task for the addicted parent to correct their children. The funny aspect is, these addicted parents know it is bad, nonetheless, pointing out that very ill to their children while they indulge in it, could be regarded as a high form of deception.

The parents however cannot be allotted all the blame. In some cases, you would be surprised to note that whatever addiction they are hooked on, must have started before they became parents. Hence, it would be difficult to stop a habit which you have regularly carried out for years, simply because you became a parent.

The first thing an addicted parent should note is, when you have an addiction, it takes most of your time and attention. So, irrespective of the fact that you might be a naturally caring individual, your child is likely to suffer some form of neglect, because you have placed your focus on something else. In the long run, you would discover that your child could have picked up any form of addiction, and it would be nearly impossible to correct your child.

In addition to this, a child of an addicted parent, is likely to suffer from abuse. Reports have had it that, children have been abused mentally, emotionally, verbally and physically by their parents who are suffering from addiction.

Children of addicted parents are also prone to having mental health and developmental issues. This occurs because the child is laid bare before the excesses which are trademarks of the addiction of their parents. It would be very difficult for you, the teachers, and friends to manage the situation of the child. Some of them could also be at a higher risk of suffering from depression and anxiety.

Conclusively, before you become a parent, ensure you have a clean slate and a certified bill of health. It is advisable for you to start parenting on a fresh note, and not in any way affect your child. l-numbe����<